James 3:4-5

Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition

4 Look at the ships also; though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. 5 So the tongue is a little member and boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire!

I am sorry my friend.  I was not listening to you as you spoke.  I was caught up in my mind about what I wanted to say.  So, I ignored and spewed fire that has someway hurt your feelings.  I have offended you and it affected your whole being.  I spent the last several days thinking about if you were right or I was right.  After praying, the little voice spoke and said that our intentions were good and we both only wanted to help a person who has sinned repeatedly.  We both have different approaches on how to help this sinful person.  My heart aches that a repeat sinner has separated us through our tongues of hurtful words.  The little voice put me at peace as I hope you are also at peace. 

James 3:10-12

Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition

10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brethren, this ought not to be so.11 Does a spring pour forth from the same opening fresh water and brackish? 12 Can a fig tree, my brethren, yield olives, or a grapevine figs? No more can salt water yield fresh.

Through prayer, may we reunite, strive for unison, and change our ways by taming our tongues.